Do kids think of sperm donors as family? | Veerle Provoost

How do we define a parent — or a family? Bioethicist Veerle Provoost explores these questions in the context of non-traditional families, ones brought together by adoption, second marriages, surrogate mothers and sperm donations. In this talk, she shares stories of how parents and children create their own family narratives.

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  • The term "good seeds" needs to reconciled with the hidden, undiscussed motive of designer baby.

    Mark Turner June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • Men you have zero reproductive rights! Zero parental rights!
    Don't donate sperm! It may ruin your life. They used to tell donors that they could remain anonymous, that was a lie. At the moment they say you won't be legaly and financially responsible. But that is not true in all jurisdiction and circumstances! And who says they won't change the law in the future once there is a rise in single motherhood!

    Feral Mob June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • am I a good enough parent? that is the question.

    SF][- FRES June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • Thank you for this video I really needed to see this

    Jenn Lewiston June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • "ParenCeco" (kun C), ne parenTeco (kun T) (en Esperanto subteksto)

    Rezoni June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • ok lol it isn’t that complex, if we are going with the first definition of family on google (a household you live with and are raised with) no obviously. The second (descendants of a common ancestor) yes obviously. And it depends on the person, and the donor. All different.

    mo0neh June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • Whats the purpose of life if eventually life or should I say production begins at incubation? The rest of us still have a legitimate question for OUR questions regarding origin.

    However, if the future consists of PRODUCING offspring from incubation centers then is it still considered “advancing our species in search of the meaning of life and our purpose” or is it “copy and paste” purgatory?

    V IE June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • So much sjw BS kids having 2 moms and no dads.. embrace the freedom i guess

    ÏŞHTĀÄŘ June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • This doesn't appear to have to been too scientific. Additionally young children can't really grasp these concepts, this should be done with donor conceived adults. This is a very biased view of the topic.

    Andrea Dizona June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • What she learned from parents and children? Obviously NOT a scientific person at all. The questions of heredity and environment that have been studied for decades is now no longer valid. Random parents and children are now the sources of new age pseudo science. I guess if you transplant an orange onto an apple tree, and chat with the orange, you can convince yourself it is now a tomato. She seems quite convinced that you can eliminate genetics as a factor in anything. We also now have "true" families. Genetics is now just a link, and has no determinant effects for anything. This sounds all sciency and everything so it must be true. It feels so right and warm and fuzzy. She's a counselor at best, and has no significantly new ideas. Why is she even on this program? Bioethicist? Hogwash. She denies biology, and has no ethical questions to ask or answer. Perhaps we should start teaching young females about partner selection, and young men about the realities of family courts, so perhaps there will be far fewer sperm donors around to create these counselor redefinitions of "family".

    Donald Duck June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • Growing up without your biological parent is detrimental to any child. The data shows fatherless children have much higher chance at depression, suicide, addiction etc. Stop justifying this horror!

    aminozuur June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • THIS SOUNDS LIKE SHE IS A LAIR. She did not see no kids FAKE…..This is propaganda to just keep the father from the family structure. If the fathers is in the home the government will lose control of all. She is the devil. STAY AWAY FROM THIS DOCTORATE.

    Shawn Adkins June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • This should seem obvious, but children have a natural right to their biological mother and father. No adult has an absolute right to have a child. As with any right, your right ends when another's begins. Your right to have a child ends where that child's rights begin.

    So it follows that the only time a child should arrive in a home where they are not biologically related to both parents is when they are placed in that home as a means of rescue, aka adoption. Why? Because adoption aims to repair an already (and usually irreparably) broken bond, not create one. In adoption the CHILD is the client. In third-party reproduction, the adult is the client. Adoption's goal is to meet the child's needs, the goal of third-party reproduction is to meet adult desires.

    B June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • I would like to see her do a study on adult donor conceived individuals. It would be a whole other story. Sperm donors are the BIOLOGICAL parents of these children, saying otherwise brainwashes them and supresses their potential feelings towards the subject.

    Fuchur22 June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • If the kid grow up may he wonder why my appearance are totally looking different to my parents. That would be awkward..

    Vital Liao June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • A very one-sided and euphemistic look at the industry… completely ignores that many donor-conceived children feel the need to seek out their donor/s to know more about themselves, where they come from, and to know the other half of their genetic family- biological father, mother (egg donor), grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. Many donor-conceived children also feel a disconnect from their social parent/s.The recent legislation in Victoria, Australia is telling: all donor-conceived Victorians, irrespective of when they were conceived, now have the right to identifying information about their donor/s. This legislation exists for a reason; it was brought about predominantly because donor-conceived Victorians lobbied for the change. Parliamentarians acknowledged that children have the human right to know who their genetic parents are. Donors in Victoria can also apply to find out identifying information about their genetic children (but the donor-conceived child must agree to the release of this information). Props to the speaker, though, for advocating honesty and discussion. I just wanted to post this to balance out her discussion a bit.

    Megz June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • Thank you for this talk. I have started looking into sperm donation for becoming a mother and this question, along with all the negativism I have received from friends and family, has been weighing upon me.

    MrsXmas1 June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • Even if i had dire money problems i would not become a sperm donor. To say it with the words of an admiral: "It's a trap!".

    alex seioo June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
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    Rodney Wright June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • Family is, who you choose to be your family. Not your blood.

    Nimity Tei June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • Can someone tell me why people don't just adopt a child ?

    May Sal June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • If kids today have a question, I would have thought they'd just google it on the mobile phones they get once they turn 5…

    sach196 June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • "I'm a philosopher"
    "So I asked children some abstract questions"

    Kurona Byrus June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
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    الدوري العالمي June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • I wish she spoke English more clearly the accent makes it difficult to listen to not gonna lie.

    chloweful June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • I was adopted from alcoholic parents and given better life. That's how I see my own life and not concentrated on the people around me.

    Stephanie Stookey June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • I believe we have over exaggerated the importance of blood relatives and it has confused our perception of love. Love is earnt not deserved. However, whilst the sperm or the egg can become insignificant if not deserved, there is always a potential to earn love. Always. Because love is abundant and this is the key point. So if you have a child or any "loved" one and expect their love only to apply to you, you're not experiencing love and you're not encouraging it either. The relationship exists primarily to serve your needs first, which is actually the kryptonite to love. Love is about giving not receiving as it about being earned and not deserved. If your love for someone cannot encompass enough room for the other person to experience their life to the fullest, you don't love that person you're simply connected to a specific version of them that makes you feel comfortable. Love is whole. Yes, genetically we're prewired to protect our unit family for suvival purposes. However, this is separate from love and really only serves a purpose when you're survival is being threatened. Pure love has no restrictions or requirements. It doesn't come in smaller packages or in different forms. It doesn't take time out or work part time. In its truest form love is simply and unequivocally abundant and whole.

    She'll draw June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
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    Khitam Al June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • My thumb down was referred to the quality of the speaker's oratory, and not related to the controversial nature of the topic. You have to step up your game, girl…

    Massimo Sabbatini June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply
  • Cute and intellectual – that's a strong combination, I must admit.

    Jakob Dering June 18, 2020 7:46 am Reply

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